The biggest breakthrough in my life came from one idea:
Nothing outside of me should have the power to control what happens inside of me.
Even when we make mistakes, we still have power over our inner peace. Criticism from others doesn’t have to become self-doubt. Someone’s anger doesn’t have to become our anger. Instead of taking things personally, we can choose to see feedback as information rather than emotional attacks. When we react calmly, we can actually grow from difficult moments instead of being drained by them.
How we interpret why things happen also matters. There are two ways to view life:
1. Everything is predetermined.
If this is true, then every event—good or bad—is simply part of a fixed path that leads us forward. And because events aren’t inherently positive or negative, there’s no reason to overthink. The future will be what it will be.
2. Everything is random.
If this is true, then worrying is useless because nothing can be predicted. The only thing worth focusing on is the present moment and the stability of our own thoughts.
Either way—destiny or randomness—the conclusion is the same:
Overthinking doesn’t help. Stress doesn’t change outcomes.
What matters is how we respond.
Marcus Aurelius wrote:
“The wise man accepts his pain, endures it, and doesn’t add to it.”
In other words: don’t make your problems heavier than they already are. Problems come and go, but most of our suffering is created in our own minds—by the stories we tell ourselves, by the expectations we cling to, by the fear of what might happen.
For me, learning to let things “just happen” changed everything. Life still throws chaos my way, but it doesn’t control me anymore. I try to stand firm, respond logically, and keep my emotions grounded no matter what happens around me.
This isn’t about ignoring challenges or pretending everything is fine. It’s about protecting the core of who we are. Our inner peace belongs to us—and only us.
When we stop letting external noise dictate our internal world, we finally gain the freedom to live with clarity, strength, and joy.